Many parents struggle to make the realities of sharing custody with a child's other parent work. The strain of living apart and the desire to have a child to oneself can create great tension, but for some parents, the difficulties move beyond mere inconvenience. For some, the other parent of their child becomes an adversary, and one they believe may kidnap the child.
If you believe that your spouse may kidnap your child, you should speak with an attorney immediately. Depending on the specifics of your situation, you may have legal actions you can take to protect yourself and your child.
If you are at all concerned that your child's other parent may kidnap that child, then you absolutely can take steps to prepare for this possibility.
Make sure you have relevant information for both the parent and child
The simplest and most effective way to calm your fears and remain prepared for the possibility that your child's other parent may kidnap your son or daughter is to gather as much information as you can about both the parent and the child.
For the other parent, you should collect as much information about his or her community and official documentation. This includes --
- Phone numbers and addresses for where he or she lives and works - Phone numbers and addresses for family members and friends, especially those in another country or state - Driver's license number - Social Security number - License plate number and vehicle make, model, and distinguishing characteristics - Recent pictures of the other parent (social media is very helpful here) - An up-to-date description of the other parent including height, weight, eye color, hair color and any tattoos or scars
Similarly, you should keep these kinds of records for your child as well, and be sure to take a full-face picture of the child every 4-6 months and after any significant haircut. While this may seem like overkill at the moment, these kinds of preparations can keep you prepared to spring into action if your fears do become reality.
Your child can also participate in his or her own safety. It is wise to have your child memorize your phone number and practice calling you from various phones. This way, if something happens, your child knows just how to reach out for help.
Get proper help to protect your family
Sadly, many parents push away their fears until it is too late. If you believe that your child's safety is in danger, you should not hesitate to speak with an experienced attorney. Proper legal counsel can help you protect your family and your rights, and calm your fears.