Even in the most amicable of marital dissolution processes, children can find the experience to be emotionally difficult. This is true whether they are young children or teenagers. Fortunately, a few tips can help parents who are going through divorce in New Jersey to help their children through it successfully.
For starters, it is paramount that parents who are going through divorce are active listeners when their children want to talk. If children feel that their parents value them, they will easily value their parents. Considering that teenagers in particular face a great deal of stress in their peer relationships and with school, it is critical that parents take time to talk to them about how they feel.
Second, it is paramount that people who are getting divorced avoid badmouthing or arguing with the other parent when their children are present. Negative comments regarding the other parent will likely cause the children to feel conflicted about whom they will be loyal to. This can, in turn, result in avoidable emotional turmoil.
Although divorce in New Jersey is never easy on the family, the best scenario is for both parents to try to create a mutually satisfactory parenting agreement. This will keep them from having to address their child custody matters at trial, which tends to be more stressful. Of course, not all custody matters can be resolved outside of court, in which case having a judge decide them is inevitable. Either way, an attorney can help a divorcing individual to pursue the most personally favorable outcome — and the outcome that is in the best interests of the children — given the circumstances.